Why Counselling?

All of us over the course of our lifetimes will experience distress, confusion, destructive and sometimes repetitive behaviours we don’t want, relationship difficulties and potentially great loss.


People may be prompted by a specific reason to start looking for a counsellor. Some of these experiences that I often work with include:


  • relationship stress

  • communication difficulties

  • anxiety

  • depression

  • fear of disapproval

  • addiction

  • relationship endings

  • perfectionism

  • dealing with illness

  • bereavement

  • feeling ‘imposter syndrome’

  • low self-esteem

  • lack of confidence

  • isolation

  • excessive thinking - rumination

  • feeling trapped by the past

  • ongoing sense of shame

  • problems with assertiveness

  • gender issues

  • life transitions

  • higher education stressors and transitions

  • struggling with meaning in life

  • identity issues

  •  work – life balance

  • self-sabotage and repetitive self-destructive behaviour

  • PTSD symptoms


It can also be the case that matters are not so clear or likely include a combination of factors. Counselling can allow the time and space to work out what is troubling you.


During difficult experiences it can be hard for us to reach out. It can also sometimes be difficult for others in our life to respond in a helpful way. This can create a situation where it doesn't feel possible to genuinely talk about what is troubling us with those around us.


It can be the case that we need to feel understood by another person in order to move forward. While it can feel a like a weighty decision about whether to have counselling and who to choose, finding the right counsellor for you can provide this.


A counsellor is in a good position to focus, to listen, is free and untangled in your life. The right counsellor for you will also be able to help facilitate feedback, insight and appropriate challenge. The process of you storytelling, sharing, explaining and being listened to can create a greater sense of self-understanding, healthy reframing and proportion. Working out and acknowledging your current strengths and personal resources is also very important. While this may be enough, the process will likely also go on to involve working out what changes can be made and what risks can be taken to improve how you feel in yourself and in your relationships.


The advantage of finding a private counsellor is proceeding with this in a timely way, with sessions that are tailored to you - in content and how many are required.

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